this makes me sad.. he was such a bad father..
I hated it when John talked to Dean
And the thing about this moment that gets to me so much — John is mad at Sam, so he takes it out on Dean in a petty way. In an episode that was about replaying patterns of their family life, that was a very telling note. Insulting/belittling Dean is John’s way of letting off steam after a frustrating conversation with his other son.
And what’s telling about that is that John raised Dean to be perfectly obedient and not to talk back; so when he’s taking his anger out on Dean it’s because he knows that Dean won’t say anything. It’s the horrible parent equivalent of punching a pillow when you’re angry- except that in this case the pillow can actually feel all of the blows that land on it.
It’s also John’s way of blaming Dean for Sam’s insolence — for saying that Dean did an inadequate job of raising Sam, because Sam doesn’t respect John. Because Sam sees Dean in the father role, when John intended for Dean to be the mother.
When John says this to Dean, he isn’t talking about the Impala at all, he’s talking about Sam. He wouldn’t have given Sam to Dean if he’d known Dean was going to ruin him.
And some people say John wasn’t abusive. This is just a tiny moment, and isn’t much more than sniping meanly like a lot of families do, but it touches on the truth.
John was an abusive father. Not physically, maybe (but you know damn well he did physical correction sometimes), and not sexual, but he was emotionally abusive. Just his constant habit of yelling, acting like a prison guard, that he did all the time, that scared the hell out of Dean? Abusive. It fits the clinical description of abuse as put forth by psychologists.